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Cuckold Femdom Ideas for a Kinkier Marriage 2023

It’s not uncommon for a cuckold to crave submission. It’s not uncommon for that cuckold’s wife to have no sense of how to meet her husband’s need to submit. This guide to adding a little femdom to your cuckold marriage aims to solve that problem with a series of ideas – ranging from mild to wild – to help ignite the kinky part of you.

Read through the ideas, talk about them with your cuckold, and experiment with the ones that turn you on the most. And don’t hesitate to adapt each idea to make it work for your specific situation.

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Chastity & Orgasm Control

This is the bedrock of your domination. I promise it will be so much easier to put your cuckold in a submissive place if you’ve placed his cock in chastity and you maintain strict control over his orgasms.

For the first few days he’ll likely fight you on it. He might be rude, too (a good spanking will cure that). He’ll rebel against the idea of being under your control and being unable to orgasm.

After just a few days – perhaps a little longer – things will change. He’ll become far more pliant. He’ll understand that he’s not getting out of chastity unless he’s well-behaved. He’ll understand that he must submit to be granted an orgasm, which he wants more than anything in the world.

That’s when you can really start having fun. That’s when you can begin training him to be the submissive you want him to be. Remember, dominating your cuckold should be mutually pleasurable, so you need to find a way to make it work for you (the many ideas below should give you a good starting place to begin your domination).

Here are a few tips to make chastity play more effective:

Don’t schedule his orgasms – He should be released and allowed to climax at random intervals. That way he’ll always be on his best behavior. You can say that you might let him out on a certain day, but never guarantee it.
He needs to orgasm from time to time – As tempting as it might be to leave him in chastity forever, you will need to give him an orgasm every once in a while. It should be more frequent at first and then you can stretch it out as you continue with chastity play.
Tease him constantly – I wrote an article about this, but the short version is that if you’re going to put him in chastity you really need to be teasing him all the time. The idea is to arouse him as often as possible. The more aroused he gets, the more submissive he’ll be (eventually; he might be defiant and eager for release at first).
Be strict – Remember, your cuckold craves female domination. He craves your control. If he misbehaves (like stealing the key and unlocking his cock to masturbate), you need to be strict. Walk away from the kink play for a while. You need to make it clear that if he wants to be dominated, he needs to understand that your rules are the only rules that matter. Either he submits to chastity or he doesn’t get to be your cuckold.

Strapon Sex/Pegging

Strapon sex is the ultimate form of role reversal in a relationship. Suddenly, you have the cock. You’re the one doing the fucking. He’s the one taking balls deep penetration. He’s the one getting on his hands and knees or lying on his back and spreading his legs.

That role reversal is just the beginning of the femdom cuckold play when you put on a beautiful strapon cock and fuck your husband. You can determine how far you’d like to take it, but there are all kinds of naughty ways you can assert your dominance.

If you want to tilt it towards romantic femdom, put him on his back and make love to him with your cock. Kiss him as you slide into his asshole. Fuck him slowly and really take your time to ensure he doesn’t feel even a little bit of pain.

On the other hand, you can bend him over, lube up a nice big strapon cock, and take his ass hard and fast from behind. Show him what it feels like to be on the receiving end of a good pounding.

Want to go deeper into dominating him with your strapon? That’s where verbal play comes in. Even a little dirty talk can make a strapon fucking so much more effective. It can range from pushing him a little deeper into a submissive space to humiliating him in a way you both find thrilling. Here are some examples:

“Tell me how much you love my cock, cuckold.”
“Do you want me to fuck you harder, baby? Do you want more of my cock inside you?”
“Beg me to fuck your tight little ass.”
“Bend over like a good little slut and spread your ass cheeks for me.”
“I’m going to destroy your ass, cucky. I’m going to stretch you out and make you my little bitch. I’m going to turn this ass into a pussy.”
“I’m going to fuck you hard and fast, just like my bull fucks me. I’m going to show you what it’s like to be taken, cuck.”

The more creative you are, the more he’ll enjoy it. You know better than anyone what your submissive cuckold is into, so customize your dirty talk to amp up the thrills.

Facesitting & Smothering

Facesitting is fairly self-explanatory. You sit on his face. It’s a beautiful, intoxicating way of exerting control over your submissive husband and there are several different ways to explore this particular form of femdom cuckold play.

If you look up facesitting videos, you’ll see that the girl is typically naked from the waist down, and that’s how your cuckold will most likely prefer it. Of course, what he wants doesn’t really matter in this case, does it? Do what you find the most arousing.

There’s something sexy about sitting on his face with your naked pussy or ass. You’re literally smothering him with your sex. If your cuckold isn’t allowed to fuck you, this can feel so much more powerful. He’ll be so close to the thing that he’s routinely denied. If you forbid him from licking you while you’re sitting on his face, it’s an even more painful form of domination.

That being said, if you choose to wear panties, shorts, a bikini, or any number of other articles of clothing, it’s an entirely different and delightful form of domination. Now you’re denying him the pleasure of touching your pussy. He’s close, but he doesn’t even get a taste of it. That sounds fun too, doesn’t it?

Smothering is an offshoot of facesitting that’s designed around breathplay. It’s pretty hard to actually completely deny him the ability to breathe by sitting on his face, but you can make it harder. It can give you a thrilling sense of control if you choose to put it into practice, though. Literally controlling his breath while you sit on his face can be quite the rush.

If you’re at all into kink fashion, facesitting is a great activity. Put on a pair of latex shorts, pants, or even a skirt and sit on his face. Let him smell the kinky fabric. Let him taste it if you want. He’s likely aroused by it too, and being so close can get him all hot and bothered while you remain in control of whether or not he orgasms.

Feminization

Feminizing your cuckold husband is a simple but hugely effective way of dominating him. Plus, there are so many different ways to do it.

Wearing women’s clothing, especially when it’s of a particularly feminine nature, is in direct contrast to what men are “supposed” to be. That’s why this is such an effective form of domination. When he’s in a pair of pink lace panties, it’s awfully hard for him to try and wrest control from you.

If you’re having trouble getting your husband to tamp down his annoying male ego, feminization is the first thing you should try. It’s a lot harder to complain about how often your bull fucks you and how your cuck doesn’t get to fuck you if you have him dressed in a bra, panties, and a pair of stockings. Are his complaints about having to do chores getting on your nerves? Put him in a soft satin French maid’s uniform and he won’t act up so much.

Within this particular form of femdom cuckold play there are so many ways to have fun. Below I’ve listed a handful of ideas to get you started. It shouldn’t take long to come up with other fun ways of feminizing your husband. You don’t have to limit yourself to dressing him in women’s clothes, either.

Make him wear your dirty panties – This can be particularly fun if they have another man’s cum inside them. Just think of how humiliating it will be for your husband to have someone else’s cum tucked up against his cock and balls all day long.
Take him shopping for his own lingerie – This is a tried and true feminization and humiliation technique. If you’re feeling bold, involve a sales girl (if she seems friendly to the idea; you can even ask ahead). Having him pick out his own panties (and a bra if you want to go further) is a great way to dominate him.
Make him wear lingerie to bed – Sleeping in soft, feminine lingerie will unquestionably make your husband feel like less of a man. It will generate beautiful submissive feelings, too.
Make him clean the house in women’s underwear – Put him in a pair of pretty panties and make him do chores. Tell him he’s being a good girl. If you want to increase the domination, make sure he’s in his chastity device. It’s even better if his panties are sheer so he can see his locked cock all day long.
Send him to work in panties – He’ll spend the entire day feeling those pretty panties hugging his cock and balls. He’ll come home in a deeply submissive place.

Feel free to come up with your own naughty ideas. Remember, your cuckold wants to be dominated. He wants to feel submissive. Use that to your advantage and have fun with it.

Painful Punishments for Your Cuckold

There’s nothing quite like a vigorous, painful punishment to put a man into a submissive headspace.

The simplest (and sometimes most humiliating) form of punishment is to take him over your knee and give him a spanking on his bare ass. Combine it with a verbal description of why he’s being spanked (he’s almost certain to disappoint you in one way or another, so make note of that and tell him about it as you spank him) and you’ll find your domination is exceptionally successful.

If you want to go beyond using your hand, there are lots of options. It always adds an extra layer of humiliation to put him over your knee, but you can still use different implements to punish him, many of which are household items. These can include a hairbrush, a wooden spoon (or other kitchen items), a piece of footwear (a sandal, for instance, would be great for foot fetishists), or really anything that’s flat and can be swung with force.

If you want to have a little more fun, lay out the various items and have him pick one before you put him over your knee. The more you involve him in his punishment, the more effective it can be.

That’s why you want to keep up a dialogue with him as you deliver the punishment. Tell him ahead of time how many spanks he’s earned and then have him count them out. Have him thank you after each one, too. After all, you’re ultimately punishing him for his benefit. You’re teaching him to be a better submissive cuckold.

If you want to move beyond putting him over your knee there are all kinds of BDSM implements of pain you can use to punish him. These include canes, paddles, whips, and much more. Keep it simple at first, though. You’ll want to be familiar with whatever you’re using so you don’t injure him, which would be counter to the entire process.

Consuming His Cum

If you have any experience dominating or cuckolding your husband, chances are you’re familiar with what happens after he cums. You know that it’s the time he’s most likely to act in a deeply unpleasant and/or distasteful way. The lust/desire that built up basically leaves his body along with his cum and he almost instantly exits the submissive headspace he’s been living in.

Thankfully, having your husband consume his cum is a great way to counteract the effects of his post-orgasmic departure from a submissive headspace.

Convincing him to eat his cum is often more difficult than it might seem, in large part because the moment he has an orgasm your submissive will likely lose all interest in consuming his seed. All that wild desire that built up as you brought him to the edge of orgasm will disappear in an instant.

That’s the magic of it, though. He’ll be doing something he wouldn’t normally do, something he doesn’t really want to be doing. He’ll be doing it for you. He’ll be submitting to your desires, and in consuming his cum he will sink back into subspace, at least a little, and getting him at least a little of the way there will be enormously beneficial.

The first time is going to be the most difficult, but once you’ve convinced him to take the leap into cum consumption you should find it much easier to get him to do it after subsequent orgasms.

For the first time you might want to consider letting him consume his cum from your body. If it’s been a particularly long time since he’s had an orgasm this can be extra exciting for him. Tell him he’s been a good boy and that you’re going to let him cum on your breasts. Tell him that there’s just one little thing he has to do for you to be granted the pleasure of getting to cum on your breasts: He needs to clean up his mess.

You could also offer him a long, slow handjob and spend the entire time talking about the joys of eating his cum and how it would make you so happy if he did. Eventually, you make him promise to consume his load if you’re kind enough to give him an orgasm. Then you catch his load in your hand and gently feed it to him. If he refuses to eat it, you punish him, but not until a little later. Make sure that punishment hurts, too.

Tease and Denial

Taking control of your cuckold’s orgasms is the bedrock of introducing female domination to your relationship. Tease and denial play can help enhance your control and lure him even deeper into submission.

As with so much of femdom cuckold play, you’ll need to experiment a little to find the right balance. Your husband is going to feel frustrated when you get him all worked up and then refuse to let him climax, but that’s the point. He needs to surrender to your control. He needs to recognize that you get to decide when he cums.

His willingness to accept that frustration can be enhanced by the way you tease him. It’s most effective if done frequently and in varying ways. Take ten seconds to offer him a far more passionate kiss than you might one morning. If it’s been a while since he’s had an orgasm he’ll be suitably aroused. Walk away the moment the kiss is over. He’ll be turned on and he’ll be without the means to climax because you’re the one in control and you’ve already left the room.

Lots of little teases are great, but they should also be balanced out by longer, more involved tease play. It should be arousing for you, too, so you’ll have to find something that you enjoy. You could try tying your cuckold to the bed, dressing up in something sexy, and driving him absolutely mad. You could take him inside you and ride him a little. You could talk dirty while you stroke his cock and play with his balls. You could tie him to a chair and rub your body against his until he’s absolutely mad with lust. Then you could deny him or give him an orgasm. It’s up to you.

Tease and denial play is more effective if he has no idea when or if he’s going to cum. Keep it random. It could be that a playful kiss will lead to something more. It could be that a long play session might lead to a beautiful finish inside you. If he’s always in a place of wondering where the tease and denial play is going to go he’ll be on his best behavior and he’ll always happily offer his submission.

Fluid Exchange/Spitting/Pissing

Fluid exchange involves your cuckold submitting to your desire to have him accept your spit or piss in his mouth or on his body and it can be a remarkably effective way of putting him in his place.

Spit play is the easiest and cleanest of the two, and it’s where I’d recommend you start. It’s such a simple thing, and yet it can have such a potent effect on your submissive husband. There are so many fun ways to implement it, too. Here are just a few to help get your imagination going:

Sit on his face and ride him with your pussy. Midway through, slide back until you’re sitting on his chest and then make him open his mouth. Lean down and slowly let your spit stream onto his tongue. Make a show of gathering it if you like. Tell him to swallow and then sit on his face again.
Give him the pleasure of your pussy by riding him. When you have him close to an orgasm, make him open his mouth so you can spit in it. Make him hold the spit on his tongue until he has an orgasm (or until you do).
Spit on his face while you’re riding his cock. You can make it a surprise or tell him it’s coming. Either way works.
Spit on him or in his mouth in non-sexual situations. Walk into his office while he’s working, tell him to open his mouth, and spit on his tongue. It will immediately make him feel submissive, which is a good thing.
Spit on his face in public. You can be as bold as you want, but I’d do it in a location where you’re in public but not one else can see, like a dressing room at a store. You assert your dominance and he feels a little panic before he can clean himself up, though of course you’ve also aroused him.

Piss play is really just a more potent form of spit play, mostly because it’s often viewed as disgusting, and with good reason. After all, you’re emptying your body’s waste onto or inside of him. Obviously, this isn’t for everyone.

However, if you’re interested, I’d recommend you start by drinking a lot of water to dilute your urine, which will dissipate the sometimes overwhelming smell and make it a lot less difficult for him. You’ll also want to do it in the shower/bathtub (or outside, I suppose) because urine is a pain to clean up.

I’d also recommend starting with pissing on his body to get him used to it. There’s a very good chance he won’t want to do any of it, but that can be a good thing as you get to assert your dominance by convincing him/ordering him to welcome your piss (your waste, essentially) onto his naked body. By surrendering to that, by giving you control over his body, he will feel that submissive pleasure that he craves.

As with the spit play, here are a few ideas to get you started:

Shower together the first time you want to piss on him. Get him turned on. Maybe soap up his cock. Then, tell him you’re going to piss on him. Tell him to lie down on the shower floor. Stand over him. Squat slowly. Start by pissing on his cock. Let him feel the heat. Smile at him as you do. If you want to reward him, let him masturbate while you’re pissing on his cock. It might help him associate piss play with his pleasure.
Work your way up his body each time you piss on him in the shower/bathtub. Piss on his stomach. Then his chest. Then his neck. Then piss on his face while his mouth and eyes are closed. Try not to get any up his nose.
Piss in his mouth. The first time you can make him hold it before spitting it out. You can also keep on pissing and just let it flow out of his mouth and onto the shower floor.
Make him swallow your piss. If he wants to be good for you, he’ll drink your piss. It will make him feel enormously submissive.

Piss play can be aided by the way you talk about it. You could, for instance, call it your nectar, or your golden nectar. You could ask him if he’s ready to receive and/or drink your nectar. It can add a sense of erotic pleasure to the whole experience if you prefer a gentler approach to domination.

Putting Your Fingers in His Mouth

This is a remarkably simple form of domination, and yet it can be so potent. Whether he’s on his knees, standing in front of you, or lying beneath you, this simple act can trigger deep submissive pleasure in your husband.

The first time, try something easy like reaching up and pressing your thumb against his lower lip as you hold his gaze. He should open his mouth, and when he does, simply slip your thumb onto his tongue. He should suck without thinking, but if he doesn’t, instruct him to do so. If you’d like, you can use your index finger, which lets you get a little deeper in his mouth.
The penetration is an important part of this. You’re filling his mouth. Fucking his face, if you like. You’re taking control over that particular orifice and you’re using it for your pleasure, and in doing so you should be filling him with submissive pleasure.

It will carry extra potency if you do it while he’s on his knees in front of you. He’s taken a naturally submissive position and you then deepen that by slipping your fingers in his mouth. Pump them in and out for extra pleasure. You can also do so while he’s on his back in bed and you’re astride him, whether you’re having sex or not, though I promise your submissive cuckold will love it if he’s inside you while you’re pumping his mouth with your fingers, especially if you’re also talking about how you wish someone else’s cock was in your pussy.

Ass Worship

There’s something so naughty about ass worship. It feels a little like a forbidden orifice, mostly because of what comes out of there. That doesn’t mean it’s dirty, of course, but there is something dirty – in the best way possible – about telling your cuckold to get on his knees and worship your ass, which is why you can use it to add a little femdom to your relationship.

If you have a bull/boyfriend, then I’d recommend you have your cuckold get on his knees and worship your ass while you’re doing your hair and makeup before your next date. If you find it difficult to actually do your makeup while you’re getting your ass eaten, then let him do it for a few minutes before sending him on his way. I promise, he’ll enjoy being given the chance to worship your ass for as long as you’re willing to let him remain on his knees.

Depending on how advanced your cuckolding has become, you could have your husband worship your ass while you’re riding your bull’s cock. That works best if you’re on the couch and your cuckold is on his knees between your bull’s legs, and it certainly isn’t for every couple, but it will thrill him.

Ass worship doesn’t have to be associated with his cuckolding, though. You could have him shower with you, give your ass a good cleaning, and then get on his knees to worship it a little while you clean the rest of your body. If you’re feeling a little more dominant, you could have your cuckold get on his knees and worship your ass right after you’ve finished a workout. Make him lick up the sweat. Pull his head between your ass cheeks and smother him with them. Make him really indulge in the pleasure of tasting your sweaty asshole and he’ll love you forever.

Ruined Orgasms

A ruined orgasm is when your man has an orgasm – when you see the semen pour from his cock – but when he doesn’t experience the mind-bending pleasure that typically comes with an orgasm. Essentially, you bring him right to the edge of his climax and then you stop stimulating him, but you’ve gotten him so close that he can’t help but cum. If you do it right, he has an orgasm without any pleasure, or with severely diminished pleasure. You can imagine how frustrating that would be.

Why would a man want that? Well, it’s you asserting your dominance. You’re taking control of his orgasm in a more extreme way. You’re making him cum but denying him the pleasure he actually craves. Plus, you’re leaving him in that frustrated headspace, which is actually where he wants to be.

It takes practice to master the art of the ruined orgasm, so you might not be great at it at first, but that’s okay. It’s easiest to master via handjob, so start with that. Take your time, too. The ruination will be more potent if you’ve been teasing him for a while. Feel free to take your pleasure, too. Get on top in a 69 and have him eat your pussy while you stroke his cock. Sit on his face for a little and reach back to play with his dick. Make sure that he’s not allowed to touch his cock, though.

If you’re in tune with your cuckold’s facial expressions and the way he moans, you can also ruin his orgasm during sex, particularly with you on top. You get him right to the edge and then you stop riding him. Watch him feel the frustration as he gets to cum in his wife without actually getting to experience pleasure. This will be particularly potent if this is the first time he’s been allowed inside you for a long time because you have a bull that satisfies your needs and you don’t need your cuckold’s cock. The agony of being denied the pleasure he craves will be delicious for both of you.